There is something one woman said in the book "Why Men Marry Bitches" that I absolutely agree and believe in.
"If I'm married, I'm going to be very happy. And if I'm single I'm going to live a great life and be happy also. So it's not really a priority." This is precisely what a bitch brings to a relationship that an insecure "nice girl" does not. A joy of life...a joie de vivre.
Sometimes I ask my gal friends what is it about marriage or being in a relationship that makes them so desire for it that they aren't interested in anything else. If there is so much of life to live, why just these things?
All women have insecurities. However, if the search for someone is simply to fill a void in one's life, then maybe what one needs to look at first is not a relationship, but oneself.
Think about what it points a guy to think..."Does she really love me or does she simply want me to fill a void? What's wrong with this woman?"
As much as men hate to admit it, they are vulnerable. It is because they are expected to be strong that they become even more vulnerable because they cannot afford to trip. Ladies, as much as there is much male-bashing going around, we have to admit many women do make use of men- financially, emotionally and hear this, sexually.
Imagine if you were the one who was being used to fill a void in his life and you knew that he didn't love you...what does that make him?
Will you be the one who will cling onto a float when you drop into the sea or you will swim to shore yourself because you know you CAN swim?
"If I'm married, I'm going to be very happy. And if I'm single I'm going to live a great life and be happy also. So it's not really a priority." This is precisely what a bitch brings to a relationship that an insecure "nice girl" does not. A joy of life...a joie de vivre.
Sometimes I ask my gal friends what is it about marriage or being in a relationship that makes them so desire for it that they aren't interested in anything else. If there is so much of life to live, why just these things?
All women have insecurities. However, if the search for someone is simply to fill a void in one's life, then maybe what one needs to look at first is not a relationship, but oneself.
Think about what it points a guy to think..."Does she really love me or does she simply want me to fill a void? What's wrong with this woman?"
As much as men hate to admit it, they are vulnerable. It is because they are expected to be strong that they become even more vulnerable because they cannot afford to trip. Ladies, as much as there is much male-bashing going around, we have to admit many women do make use of men- financially, emotionally and hear this, sexually.
Imagine if you were the one who was being used to fill a void in his life and you knew that he didn't love you...what does that make him?
Will you be the one who will cling onto a float when you drop into the sea or you will swim to shore yourself because you know you CAN swim?
3 comments:
been there!! i supposed i was used to fill a void. that was fine since there was love and genuine concern. but by and by, i felt dissatisfied and realized there wasn't much substance in the relationship. i thought i could do better. and that was when i left. good feeling though.
been there too! *high five* I agree babe, can do much better and you definitely did better :)
Ooh, ooh, ooh!!! If you like WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES, you should *definitely* tune into my radio show, Dating Roadkill, at 10:00PM EST on Monday. Sherry Argov, the book's author, is going to be the featured guest. :)
If you want more details, shoot me an email. (The link is on my profile page.)
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