Always In The Right Place

A phrase has been coming into my mind these few days...

"You are always in the right place at the right time."


I first came across a phrase like that in the song "Welcome To Wherever You Are" by Bon Jovi.


Maybe we're different, but we're still the same
We all got the blood of Eden, running through our veins
I know sometimes it's hard for you to see
You come between just who you are and who you wanna be

If you feel alone, and lost and need a friend
Remember every new beginning, is some beginning's end

[Chorus]
Welcome to wherever you are
This is your life, you made it this far
Welcome, you gotta believe
That right here right now, you're exactly where you're supposed to be
Welcome, to wherever you are

When everybody's in, and you're left out
And you feel your drowning, in a shadow of a doubt
Everyones a miracle in their own way
Just listen to yourself, not what other people say
When it seems you're lost, alone and feeling down
Remember everybody's different
Just take a look around

[Chorus]
Be who you want to, be who you are
Everyones a hero, everyone's a star
When you wanna give up, and your hearts about to break
Remember that you're perfect, God makes no mistakes


I then came across the same phrase in a reading I had which told me that I must always believe that I was right where I was supposed to be.

I don't know why this came to my mind again recently but I do realise that more often than not, we wish we were somewhere else, doing something else, being someone else other than where, what and who we are now. Sometimes we look back and cringe at things we have done, said or places we have showed up in.

I know because I cringe too. However, whenever someone asked me if I would change anything if I had a chance to relive everything again, my answer was surprisingly no. Well, as embarrassing as some things may be and as much as I wished I did certain things better, I realise that without them, I wouldn't have learnt things that I am now grateful for. So I think I would have probably lived through most of it again.

Sometimes, it isn't even the big things. You may think that it's useless now but it could come back to you in a big way and make a difference to your life somewhere down the road. I still remember a speech given by Steve Jobs a few years ago. One of the things he talked about was the calligraphy classes he took back in university which seemed utterly useless on the practical scale then. Ten years later, it is the reason behind why Mac became the first computer with beautiful typography.

I have always loved dance and my foray into dance was really rather accidental, borne out of curiousity than passion. The passion only came later. The move into salsa was also the same, a seemingly small unpractical hobby that has now turned into a teaching vocation; a vocation that has offered some monetary assistance in times when my main business is taking a hit from the markets.

My interest in all things Korean also came out of an accident. I happened to watch excerpts of a serial at a foodcourt in Tampines. For some reason, I picked up the drama which I usually hated and watched it. That started my interest in Rain and Kpop. Now you may wonder what's the relevance and significance. It was my eventual discovery of DBSK and fanfics that sparked my interest to write fiction. That happens to be a huge love in my life now. Discovery of a lifetime, you may say.

All from seemingly small, useless, unpractical loves, habits and quirks.

Maybe there are days where we dread to be where we are at but maybe within the wheels of fate, there is a reason why one is there which will unfold in many days to come.

So next time you think that you are not in the right place, think again. It may seem the case but in the grand scale of things and days to come, it may just be the right place for you to be in, at the right time.

Look Forward

Got this through email but it's really good :)

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DO NOT LOOK BACK AND ASK WHY, LOOK FORWARD AND ASK WHY NOT

A very valuable lesson to learn ...


Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?' In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship.

There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did. Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%.

Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..' Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiettype, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host. But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about life! About your jobs. About your friends. About your children. About your lifestyles. Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip!

Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!