Got this from a friend's email...one of the forward emails with good advice :)
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
4. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.
5. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
6. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
7. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
8. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
9. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
10. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
11. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
12. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
13. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
14. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
15. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
16. Never let a man define who you are.
17. Never borrow someone else's man.
18. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
19. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
20. All men are NOT dogs.
21. You should not be the one doing all the bending ...compromise is a two way street.
22. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
23. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
24. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
25. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,
and y ou're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
26. Never move into his mother's house.
27. Never co-sign for a man.
28. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
A personal contribution...An excerpt from an EXCELLENT book for women titled "Captivating" by John & Stasi Eldredge:
"Somewhere between the dreams of your youth and yesterday something precious has been lost. And that treasure is your heart. your priceless feminine heart. God has set within you a feminity that is powerful and tender, fierce and alluring. No doubt it has been misunderstood. Surely it has been assaulted. But it is there, your true heart, and it is worth recovering. You are captivating."
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What you see in a man after 28 years old is what you get
If a man does something to you that means he is willing to do it to you
If he changes, that means for now he changed - let's see what he does in 6 months or 1 year
If he says he will do anything to get you back or for you to forgive him, then ask for anything and let's see if he'll do it - if he doesn't then it was a lie or a bluff from the beginning
Don't make sex a 'reward' - that means you are a prize, toy and thing - it should be mutually enjoyed and shared
If you are not getting something from a man, say to him - I need this from you - give him time to do it or get it - ask again without nagging - let a man 'man-up' for you
You may not be able to change a man but you can ask him to change his behaivor and words at certain times. Explain what you want or don't want.
Most men are not dogs but will often do what you don't object to or put a limit on
Treat a man like a man, your man, not a boy, your child, no matter what he acts like. Women revert to acting like girls - guys just don't complain - treat him like a man and if you don't like what he is doing, tell him you prefer something else or leave the situation - I need to get this from my car - I have to go to the store, etc.
You are both learning to give to each other so you won't always get what you want like you want it right away.
If you want something, don't hint, tell him. Sometimes he learns the hints but he may not. Ask. Tell yim you're sure he's man enough to get it for you or do this for you.
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