Unfaithful

Would you tolerate unfaithfulness?

Or would you come to a mutual agreement to achieve a state of negotiated unfaithfulness?

Eve has been asked this question many times in a myriad of permutations. Frankly, Eve doesn’t think there are many, if any, men or women who will whole-heartedly encourage their partner to cross the line unless it’s a game.

Traditionally, men committing such an act were greatly frowned upon by women although in general, society seems to be more tolerant of men committing such acts as compared to women. This may be a passing judgment but now it seems that the trend in itself is changing.

Maybe women were just better at hiding it but it seems women are joining in as well. Today, it is as possible for a relationship to fall apart due to a woman’s unfaithfulness as much as it is due to a man’s fault.

There are many women who will not tolerate or forgive a man if he should ever cross the line. There is a new camp that is willing to “let it go”. A gal friend old me some time back that more and more of her gal friends are willing to close an eye if their boyfriends had committed one night stands, on the condition it is purely physical.

Call me cynical but Eve believes a man will have committed such an act once or came very close to it at least once during a committed relationship. The same applies to women as well. The thrill of new excitement is often too great for logical thinking to exist in the face of passion. Never mind if one loves his or her partner because lust simply has such a grip on humans. In the face of this possible occurrence, is it still realistic to wish for a one-woman-man or a one-man-woman?

Eve had never been quite sure on her stand with regards to this matter. Over the recent years, things began to get a little clearer on this front.

No, Eve has not reached the stage of encouraging her partner to “go ahead and do whatever you want” in this department. However, Eve believes that as responsible adults, one should have the ability to think for oneself. If one is able to commit an act that may possibly hurt his or her partner, he or she should have the realization that his or her partner will then have the right to do the same as well. It becomes free for all. The relationship may go downhill from there but there are people who find a balance. It all boils down to the state and understanding achieved in the relationship.

Will Eve accept it? Guess it all comes down to the health of the relationships and the circumstances under which it happened.

Will Eve do it?

Well Eve has not done it before but like they say…never say never.