The Beginning

Ah Finally..I have been wanting to do something like this for the longest time and now I am finally down to it. Just a place to write my thoughts, ramblings to ease my poor brain whom some claim to think too much ha. And knowing me, I will give whoever who reads looonnggg posts to read *chuckle*

My song of the moment:

"Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own"

Tough, you think you've got the stuff
You're telling me and anyone
You're hard enough

You don't have to put up a fight
You don't have to always be right
Let me take some of the punches for you tonight

Listen to me now
I need to let you know
You don't have to go it alone
And it's you when I look in the mirror
And it's you when I don't pick up the phone
Sometimes you can't make it on your own

We fight all the time
You and I...that's alright
We're the same soul
I don't need...
I don't need to hear you say
That if we weren't so alike
You'd like me a whole lot more

Listen to me now
I need to let you know
You don't have to go it alone
And it's you when I look in the mirror
And it's you when I don't pick up the phone
Sometimes you can't make it on your own

I know that we don't talk
I'm sick of it all
Can - you - hear - me - when - I -Sing, you're the reason I sing
You're the reason why the opera is in me...
Where are we now?
I've still got to let you know
A house still doesn't make a home
Don't leave me here alone...

And it's you when I look in the mirror
And it's you that makes it hard to let go
Sometimes you can't make it on your own
Sometimes you can't make it
The best you can do is to fake it
Sometimes you can't make it on your own

Why do people fight? I guess there's a multitude of reasons. However I notice, at one point or other, the fight becomes a fight of pride. A friend once said, if you take pride away from stuff, everything will be so simple. I agree. The things we want in life are often not needs but products of pride and vanity, like it or not. But when it comes to relationships between people, what is the price of pride?

I realised sometimes people have real differences to settle between them so they have to argue or fight. One should stand for the ground you stand on and believe in. However, there comes a point when one unconsciously becomes fighting to win the argument. I know someone like that. There are many times I wanted to ask, "You can argue and win the fight but you lose a friend. So its winning at what price?" End of the day, you win and yet lose something far more valuable, the very thing you were fighting for. Maybe we have grown up to building a wall to protect ourselves or maybe in the heat of anger, we as mere mortals fail to stop ourselves from doing things that hurt others and ourselves eventually.


Oh please do not misunderstand me.. I get angry, upset and I argue and fight as well. But as time went by, I began to stop my pride from taking over so much..to take an extra small second to try to see things from the other side of the table, to take an extra minute to ask myself what's really important here..to win the fight or to find a win-win in the relationship I have with this person? I once brought this up to someone dear..asked why can't we put the pride aside and work through this together? What's really important here? For me, I chose the relationship over pride. Sad enough, in a way, it didn't work out the way I had hoped it could..the perspective became the downfall. Strange when you read it perhaps, but it happens.

Sometimes we have too many baggages that make us unable to see things in new light. Sometimes I wished people, including myself, could see that its not a me-versus-you situation but a we-are-in-this-together-let's-find-a-way situation. It changes the perspective a lot more..at least for me. Helps me to calm down a lot more and see things differently. Well enough for now..maybe I'll write again later :)